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Time to answer more questions! And this is not the end, feel free to keep asking.

Question the First:

“Why exactly did you leave the U of Wyoming?”

Posted 1/28/2005 at 12:01 AM by BrowneyedGirl1017

Quite simply, I left because I decided to change majors. I attended UW to study archaeology. When I decided to switch majors to history education, all of my former teachers recommended UNI. Contrary to popular belief, I did NOT transfer because of my girlfriend. And yes, I had that discussion with her at the time. I loved her dearly, but to change gears that drastically for something that could suddenly come to an end would be a poor decision. If we were married, however, that would be entirely different.

what do you think? Take the chance or let it pass? I know you’re not a relationship guru, but as a friend of mine, I just have to ask that question of you to hear your own advice.

Posted 1/28/2005 at 9:33 AM by spidyredneckjedi

Nate ma bookie, I no I am not a relationship guru either. But I am your friend and even though I still feel like I have little experience in this field I will give you the best advice I can sincerely come up with.

   I have been in this dilemma many, many times. In fact, every time I fell in love save for ONE time, I ended up falling in love with a very close friend. The one time I feel in love with someone who wasn’t a close friend was the only time I ended up in a relationship considerably different than a normal friendship. I have to admit, it is very easy to fall in love with a friend because of that special connection you already have. Relationships are based on mutual trust, and good friends already have this established. Relationships are also based on knowing a person, enjoying each other’s company, etc etc and these things have also been laid out already in a good solid friendship. A relationship that a boyfriend/girlfriend have is little different. I have always believed that the man/woman you love is also your best friend. It is kind of strange to think of it that way (many say “eww! my best friend?”) but it is the truth. Honestly, would you trust a relative stranger or a mere aquaintance with the same things you trust your best friend with? Or how about someone you love? You are so comfortable with a best friend that you have no secrets and no fear that they will hurt you. Sounds like the ideal love to me.

   However, therein lies the dilemma. You have a wonderful friendship that means a lot to you and you are afraid of losing that friendship while gambling on something a little more. So is it worth it? I for one am the hopeless romantic that believes love is worth dying for. I also believe in cherishing the friendships I share with people. Perhaps this great and perhaps silly perception of love being the greatest thing in life is the reason why my breed died out so long ago. Who knows. But I do know that love is worth nearly any price. I for one would gladly give my life for love. In a second. But I’m not every person.

   The decision you make should definitely not be made lightly. Personally, and this is the insane-has-nothing-to-lose me talking, I would sit her down and tell her how you feel. Don’t ask her out, and definitely don’t use the “L” word. Nothing scares a woman more than my face and the “L” word. My research has proven this. But yes, I would talk to her face to face and tell her how you feel, in complete honesty, and let her know that you aren’t trying to pressure her into any sort of decision. Let her know that you are merely being honest with her because you want her to know. It will be hard and it will be DAMNED SCARY but if you really have strong feelings for her, telling her will prove how honest and true a friend you really are. And maybe that confession will not lead to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. BUT if she is a true friend as well, you will maintain an even STRONGER friendship because, ma bookie, you were honest and nothing is stronger than the truth. Except maybe adamantium. Maybe.

PS- ‘ma bookie’ is Huttese for “my boy.”

Favorite color? What foreign countries have you been to?

Posted 1/30/2005 at 8:26 PM by BribB

My favorite color is green, the kind of green you only see in the deep woods an hour before sunset and after a day’s rain. Mmm…. so beautiful.

As for foreign contries I have been to England, Scotland, and Alabama.

What one person do you look up to most?

Posted 1/30/2005 at 9:36 PM by Gil_Galad

Tough question. I look up to a lot of different people, some of whom never really existed. I look up to King Arthur to see how a strong leader can also be a moral one, I look up to Beethoven to understand what passion is, I look up to heroes like William Wallace, Batman, and other legends to show me what courage is, people like that. However, over time I’ve found myself looking more and more up to God. He has the traits of all those I’ve ever held in esteem. So why not look up to a “packaged deal” of sorts? It’s a lot simpler. But I still admire my old idols. LOVE Beethoven’s music and I still am inspired by those old stories.

Well that wraps up this round. Like I mentioned before, ask away! I love answering questions!