November 23, 2004


  • Sigh… still here. Going home for break today. Is there a magic number of days/weeks one should wait before pursuing their next romance? I’m new to this.


    As for the pic, this is Alison Lohman who played Ewan McGregor’s wife in the movie Big Fish. I remember when I first saw that movie, how my heart stopped when he saw her at the circus. For a moment I swore I saw an angel.


    So then it reminded me of times when such things had happened to me in the real world, beyond the silver screen. I’ve been blessed in seeing, meeting and befriending many beautiful women in my life. What an honor it is to know them, what a blessing it is. How torturous it once was to be cursed to ever watch and never be something more. Falling in love used to be a painful thing, and then Christine came along and it was wonderful. Now that it is over, I am surprised at how quickly I’ve gotten back on my feet. Perhaps credit should be given to the “cleanness” of it, the sheer honesty and inescapable truth. I can live with truth. Truth is simple, if brutal. There were no lies, no deception, no argument, no hatred. Just simple truth. Many people avoid the truth because it is so frightening. I revel in it. I wrap myself up in truth and dance. The truth sets us free, and it has set me free of any burdening guilt I would have carried if there had been any dishonesty.


    Hope remains. There is always hope. In fact, in due time there may be another lady whom I will pursue in hopes of finding romance yet again. I don’t dare rush things for fear of killing any delicate, budding feelings she may already have for me. Patience is necessary. For now I’ll view this promised land from afar, waiting for the right time to dare wander another step. Wish this pilgrim luck.

Comments (7)

  • Hey, I’m with you all the way.  That scene in Big Fish is one of the best from that movie.  I really love that movie.  So far, I’ve not had the same honor as you’ve had with finding a relationship to progress further then friendship, however.  I am waiting patiently for my own opportunity to arise, but until that time, i’m cherishing every moment I can with friends, both male and female, and family.  Looking forward to Thanksgiving break as well.  Well, see you in like four hours.  Have a great day!

  • You found me, sir.  Find me in person if the need arises.  Have a blessed Thanksgiving.  Peace

  • —–Is there a magic number of days/weeks one should wait before pursuing their next romance?—–

    No.  There will always be feelings for the past loves.  But you should not move on to the next if you feel that it would be treating anyone unfairly.  However, in your situation, I would say “go for it, and good luck.”

  • Jake, you WILL find a new lady one day.  You will.

    I can’t believe you don’t remember me!  I mean after smacking you upside the head all those times 3 years ago…OK, so you probably just didn’t recognize the name.  Bri.  Brianne.  Beuter?  Yeah, that’s me.  If you need a better reminder, check out my other site sometime.  Just link to it from my xanga, you know, where it says, “Visit My Website.”

    Oh, by the way, I really like the sky pic on your last entry!

  • Hello, sorry about the break up. I highly doubt you remember me all that well, more my older brothers…but I was the little tag along, and I stumbled upon your site and went ‘no way!’ so yea, amazing the people you can find on here….

  • Jacob,

    I just read about your loss. I’m sorry to hear about it. I really thought you two were good for each other… and I know what it’s like to be left after a year and a half… Just remember that you always have friends to fall back on… It sure helped me. (Of course, leaving Ames the next week and not having to see her for three months helped too).

    Honestly, you will probably always love her. Simply remember that there is a difference between loving someone, and being in love with them. I’m still friends with Sarah, and we still talk all the time, we just know that it would have never worked… you just have to work past the wierdness factor first.

    Don’t rush into the next one. The worst thing you can do is to try and “replace” the one you love immediately. Give it time.

    I’ll give you a call tomorrow night (Friday) to see if you’re still in town. I’d like to hang… and get some advice on being a good DM… the Red Dwarf RPG is definitely starting…

    Anyway, be good to yourself. And to others.

    -Time heals all things.

  • In the words of the Cow-Dog……….

    MOOF!

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